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Judgment: The Good, The Bad, and The Necessary

Judgment: The Good, The Bad, and The Necessary

Judgment is a natural and necessary function of the brain. It allows us to make quick decisions and keep ourselves safe. However, judgment can also be harmful when we use it to put others down or to make assumptions about people and situations without knowing all the facts. It can also lead to guilt and shame when we judge ourselves or feel judged by others.

The Positive Side of Being Judgmental

One example where being judgmental can be a good thing is in the context of goal-setting. In order to achieve our goals, it is important to make judgments about what actions are necessary to move us toward our desired outcome. By being judgmental in a thoughtful and intentional way, we can take the actions necessary to achieve our goals and create the lives we want.

For instance, if someone has a goal of losing weight, they may need to make judgments about their current diet and exercise habits in order to determine what changes they need to make. Similarly, if someone has a goal of advancing in their career, they may need to make judgments about their current skills and experience, as well as the skills and experience necessary for the position they hope to attain.

In these examples, being judgmental is a necessary and positive behavior. Without making judgments about our current circumstances and what actions we need to take in order to achieve our goals, we may not be able to make progress toward our desired outcomes.

The Negative Side of Being Judgmental

On the other hand, when we judge others without understanding their circumstances or make assumptions without all the facts, it can lead to hurtful and negative behavior. Samantha, a mother, found herself judging other parents for their parenting styles, discipline techniques, and even their children’s behavior. She felt guilty about these judgments, knowing that they were not fair or helpful.

Example of Negative Judgment

One day, Samantha was at the park with her children when she saw another mother struggling with her toddler, who was throwing a tantrum. Samantha’s first instinct was to judge the mother for not being able to control her child. However, she paused and reminded herself that she did not know what this mother was going through.

The Importance of Compassion and Kindness

Instead of judging, Samantha approached the mother and offered her help and support. By setting aside her judgments and focusing on kindness and compassion, Samantha was able to create a positive and supportive interaction with another mother and even made a new friend in the process.

From that day forward, Samantha made a conscious effort to be more aware of her judgments and to approach others with kindness and understanding. She learned that judgment is natural, but it is important to use it in a way that is compassionate and helpful, rather than hurtful or negative.

Conclusion: The Role of Judgment in Our Lives

To conclude, judgment is a natural function of the brain, and it can be both good and bad. When used in a thoughtful and intentional way, judgment can help us achieve our goals and create the lives we want. However, when we judge others without understanding their circumstances or make assumptions without all the facts, it can lead to hurtful and negative behavior. It is important to be aware of our judgments and use them in a way that is compassionate and helpful, rather than hurtful or negative. By doing so, we can create more positive and supportive interactions with others and create a better world for all of us.

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