fbpx
 

Blog

  • Imagine this: you’re staring at a menu with too many options. Minutes tick by as you try to decide what to order, overwhelmed by the fear of making the “wrong” choice. While this may seem trivial, the same paralysis can seep into life’s bigger decisions—career...

  • Aging is inevitable. Yet for many, the thought of growing older can spark a deep sense of fear. The body changes, responsibilities shift, and for some, there’s a creeping sense of loss—loss of time, opportunity, youth, or even identity. But what if I told you...

  • 🚀 Life Coach Dublin – Rob Duffy – Your Partner in Personal and Professional Transformation A Deep Connection with Dublin Growing up and working in Dublin for 40 years has given me an unparalleled understanding of this vibrant city and its unique challenges. Dublin’s rich...

  • Men, just like women, experience a rich tapestry of emotions. Yet, societal expectations often pressure men to conceal and obfuscate their emotional reality, leading to detrimental consequences for their well-being. 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 No one can shut off their emotions. Men are simply trained not...

  • Have you ever felt like you’re searching for something more in life? Like there’s a missing puzzle piece you’re trying to find? That’s how I felt until I stumbled upon something that changed everything: the idea of really knowing myself. Let me tell you a...

  • In the fast-paced world of 2024, your attention and focus have become commodities fiercely sought after. As a life and business coach, I’ve observed some prevailing trends amongst my clients, shedding light on the challenges many are grappling with. Having had many discussions in the...

  • In the realm of personal growth and transformation, few obstacles are as pervasive and impactful as limiting beliefs. These deeply ingrained, negative thoughts or beliefs can silently sabotage our efforts, keeping us from realizing our true potential. In this article, we’ll dive into the world...

  • In my previous article, “My Journey With The Anxiety Of The Imposter Syndrome,” I delved into my personal experience with Imposter Syndrome, a phenomenon that many of us grapple with at some point in our lives. After running a poll in my Facebook Group, it...

  • In the grand symphony of life, each of us has a unique part to play. But how often do we find ourselves dancing to someone else’s tune? As Thomas Merton once said, ‘People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to...

  • Six strategies for overcoming resistance to change that I wish I had access to when I was starting! Working in the coaching profession for the last almost ten years has been exciting and eye opening. The biggest challenge we help people with, as coaches, is...

  • Do you want to know how to overcome people pleasing?Welcome to a journey exploring people pleasing—an intricate behavior driven by our desire to conform.In this article, I’ll explore people-pleasing’s origins and its impact on our lives and relationships.I’ll reveal the harmful consequences of people-pleasing and...

  • Embarking on a new goal or challenge can be both exciting and daunting. Initially, we may possess a strong vision of success, fueled by motivation and a willingness to take action. However, as time progresses, we often encounter familiar feelings of fatigue, boredom, discouragement, and...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Exploring the Tapestry of Friendship’ series Welcome to Part 1/5 Childhood, a time of innocence and wonder, is also a crucial period for forming friendships that can profoundly impact our lives. These early connections have the power to shape our...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Control The Controllables’ series Welcome to Part 5/5 In the previous four parts of this series on “Control the Controllables”, we’ve discussed the importance of personal responsibility, adaptability, self-motivation, mental energy, and intentional attention. Now, in this final part, we’ll...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Control The Controllables’ series Welcome to Part 4/5 In this article, we will explore the concept of attention and focus, and how they relate to personal responsibility in controlling the controllables. What is Attention? Attention and focus are often used...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Control The Controllables’ series Welcome to Part 3/5 When it comes to taking control of the controllables of our lives, one of the most important aspects to consider is the energy we create within ourselves. Our diet, exercise routine, and...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Control The Controllables’ series Welcome to Part 2/5 Motivation is what drives us to succeed and achieve our goals. But how do we stay motivated when things get tough? In this post, I’ll explore the different types of motivation, how...

  • This IS Part of the ‘Control The Controllables’ series Welcome to Part 1/5 Controlling the controllables is an essential concept that can help us navigate challenging situations with greater ease and resilience. At its core, this idea is about focusing on what we can control,...

  • Confidence is often seen as something that can be gained or lost, but this is a misnomer. The truth is that confidence is the default state. We are born with a natural sense of self-assurance. As we grow up and experience adverse childhood experiences, trauma,...

  • What is the Victim Mentality The victim mentality is destroying your life – this statement holds true for many people. I have written about this in greater detail here. It is a mindset that can hinder personal growth, success, and happiness. The victim mentality is...

  • As the legalisation of weed for both medicinal and recreational purposes becomes more widespread, it’s important to take a step back and examine the potential risks and health effects associated with regular use. While weed has been touted for its potential health benefits, including pain...

  • We’re excited to share with you some valuable insights on emotional literacy and its importance in everyday life. This is the ability to identify, understand, and manage emotions in oneself and others. It is a vital skill that helps individuals develop healthier relationships, better communication,...

  • Are you feeling stuck in your personal or professional life? Do you find yourself struggling with negative thoughts and beliefs that hold you back from reaching your goals? If so, you might benefit from working with a mindset coach. What is a Mindset Coach? A...

  • Judgment is a natural and necessary function of the brain. It allows us to make quick decisions and keep ourselves safe. However, judgment can also be harmful when we use it to put others down or to make assumptions about people and situations without knowing...

  • As human beings, we are endowed with a remarkable capacity for action and creativity. We have the ability to pursue our goals with intense passion and to achieve incredible feats. However, this capacity for action also comes with the potential for recklessness, impulsivity, and excess....

  • My partner and I just passed our 16-year anniversary together. I strongly believe that being in a committed relationship should be a priority for personal well-being. We, humans, are social creatures, and we thrive on connection and intimacy with others. A healthy relationship provides us...

  • Let’s talk about weed. I’ve had two stints of smoking weed in my life. The latter phase was less dependency-based and more recreational use. I first started smoking weed consistently when I was around 17 or 18. I quickly became dependent. Smoking every day, even...

  • You probably googled ‘overcome nerves’. There’s only a couple of days left before you have to give that big presentation/speech. It’s in front of a whole bunch of people and you are dreading it! ‘If only I had more confidence!’ I need something to help...

  • Anyone involved in the leadership realm knows the importance of saying ‘NO’. There are so many requests coming our way these days. Being able to know what is important enough to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to is a skill that many of us struggle with....

  • What are you currently worried about? Importantly, ask yourself if it is something you can actually enact any semblance of control over. Without a doubt, one of the most common themes I help people with is how to learn to control the controllables. What are...

  • Is Loneliness An Issue For You? With the coronavirus pandemic dragging on, more people struggle with loneliness than ever. Humans are social animals. We need companionship, so the importance of physical distancing to slow the spread of illness presents loneliness challenges. On a positive note,...

  • Am I an Introvert? So, you just realised you might be an introvert! But, how do I know if I’m an Introvert? Grab a cup of tea or coffee and let’s chat about it! So, you are among an estimated one-third of the global population...

  • It’s Mindset Do you dream of starting a business or becoming an entrepreneur? Is the biggest block for you that you don’t know how to start? If so, it could be due to having the wrong mindset. You may have all these goals and ideas...

  • What one skill is vital to personal success? If you were asked this question, how would you respond? Would you say “perseverance” or “determination”? What about “charisma” or “people skills”? How about “wealth”? Those skills are important; however, there is one that is key above...

  • Okay, well done! You have solved the CV and Cover Letter conundrum. You have landed the job interviews and are on your way to landing the job that you applied for! Go you!  The next hurdle is being able to convince a panel of people...

  • Start Now! Journaling is simply one of the best habits to have to increase your wellbeing. If you read this article and you don’t start doing it, you are probably missing out. By journaling, you can have a better emotional, physical and dare I say,...

  • I recently put out a poll in my Facebook Group (which you should join) about what interesting topics I should focus on in the coming weeks and months. Issues related to Imposter Syndrome got the most votes and are seemingly something a lot of us...

  • People love to work for leaders who embrace humility. Humility is a typically rare commodity in leadership in many sectors. Working with hundreds of leaders, in various sectors over the years, this theme comes up time and time again. Performance problems in one area of...

  • Thanks For Your Unsolicited Judgement Mate! ‘Rob, you are a bit of an idiot!’, said the random comment on a video I recorded and placed somewhere on the internet. Interestingly, I find their judgements hilarious. Especially unsolicited ones from strangers. That’s when it hit me....

  • Let’s talk about victim mentality. Before I begin this piece, I want to clearly state that actual victims of horrific abuse from narcissists, criminals, and injuries exist. Those people should receive the support and services they need to overcome these traumatic events. This is not...

  • I always wondered what this ‘midlife crisis’ stuff was about. I always heard that turning forty was something to watch out for. Something even to be scared of!   I have always been curious about the concept of a ‘midlife crisis’. It seems that turning...

  • What did I just say to myself? I listened to the self-talk in my brain and realized the message is familiar to my childhood experience. My mother would often say, “Money doesn’t grow on trees.” It’s remarkable how easily this self-talk can establish itself in...

  • Self-knowledge and having self-awareness of our styles and patterns are the only gig in town as far as I am concerned for those of us who want to be successful in any area of life we choose. Knowing and having an eye on our habits,...

  • Let’s talk about regret, a feeling I know all too well. It’s defined as sadness, disappointment, or repentance over something done or not done. Regret is a double-edged sword that many people hold within themselves, causing great pain. While it’s the worst feeling I have...

  • We are not born good or bad thinkers. We are born with a potential for good or average thinking skills relative to other factors. The brain will become whatever potential it achieves based on the inputs we are exposed to in the world. Thinking is...

  • What Are You Waiting For? Permission? Giving ourselves permission to do something deeply desired can be challenging. It sure as hell shouldn’t be, right? We can deliberate and make excuses for months and years. We can remain indecisive and avoidant while the sands of time...

  • Close your eyes…… What would it mean to you to have more self-confidence? How would your life change and what would you be able to do if you had more self-confidence? Would you like to become unstoppable?   What is Self Confidence? What the hell...

  • ‘I want to change my career’, I hear many of my clients say as we begin the coaching relationship. ‘Great! Get ready to feel uncomfortable’, is how I respond. But can we really expect any change in our lives to feel comfortable? Changing jobs, and...

  • Let’s close our eyes and think about life. How many things wouldn’t happen because of a lack of self-confidence or how many things do we do thanks to self-confidence? Confidence, or lack of it, is an issue that comes up again and again in life....

  • People are looking for an answer to their problems. Existential angst is ever-present in the world. Many people (like me during my drug addiction phase) search outside of themselves for the answer to internal problems. People try many things. Many people leap towards taking action...

  • I want to talk about friendship today, childhood friends to be specific. I can remember going to school in my suburban neighbourhood. On the first day, I was unhappily thrown into a class with absolute strangers. These were people I had never met before in...